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Who Took My Blankie?

My very own

Just recently I had a passionate conversation and I wished I had recorded it, however, I will do my best to repeat the magnitude of what was said.

We are born.  Not by our own choice, but God’s.  We come into this world very unaware of our surroundings.  No clue perhaps in those first few moments of taking our first breaths.  Then as if out of nowhere there is a cutting.  A sudden revelation of a separation takes place.  The life line which you had been connected to for nine or so months suddenly is gone.

Now of course in those early stages of life we don’t actually have those thoughts running through our heads as birthing is a natural process which has been happening in this earth for a very long time.  For those who have anxiety at the moment you can probably close your eyes and imagine that whole beginning scene.  Those with separation issues could also relate.  What you once knew as comfort and connection is suddenly gone. Taken away.

So let’s take this to the next level.  As children we often cling to things such as stuffed animals, dolls or the ever so popular blankie.  These items become very important to us in early life.  You share EVERYTHING with this object, things you probably never told anyone else except for maybe your imaginary friend if you had one around.  I remember my son had a favorite teddy bear.  He went every where my son went.  If it was time for Teddy to have a bath, my son would stand by the washer and dryer until the whole process was complete.  He was clearly attached.

For the purposes of this discussion I am going to use the representation of the Blankie as I move through this next phase.  The Blankie is going to represent things we cling to in life as a comfort: food, family, friends, secret sins, drugs, alcohol and the likes.  Anything which we choose to go to instead of God.  As with the Blankie, we develop a relationship with our source of comfort.  It’s the one thing we know that will never let us down, it does not have the ability to.  We know when no one else understands us, our Blankie will.  It will comfort us.  Keep us close.  Never rejecting us.  Always a true friend and confidante.

What happens when God asks us to let go of the Blankie so that He can be our comfort, our true friend and confidante?  Of course!  We panic.  We cling all the tighter to our Blankie because a fear rises up in us.  How can we trust anyone else with our Blankie?  It knows us inside and out and would never hurt us or reject us or leave us hanging.  How do we know we will find comfort after we let go of the Blankie?

It all comes down to trust.  A trust beyond all thinking.  A trust so strong you have no choice but to cling to it instead of your false comforts.  For you see, a Blankie is just a false representation of love and trust.  In the end, you can’t take it with you.  It will be burned up with the things of the past.  You will step into heaven and God will be there.  Not your Blankie,–your false comfort.

God is calling us to trust Him with EVERYTHING.  Just like we shared our entire early stages of life with said Blankie, God wants you to choose to trust Him.  He wants to be your comfort.  Your security.  You source of Acceptance.

Some of us are still clinging to our Blankies.  We are at a point in our adult lives where we are afraid of being hurt and disappointed.  We don’t want to give up the very thing which has been there all along.  Drugs, alcohol, secret sins, food, bad relationships and various other addictions are not our security.  They are not our comfort.  They are not to be trusted.  Only God. God is the only one who will never let you down.  He will be there from the beginning until the end.  You can take Him where ever you go.  You can share every secret with Him.

One final thought.  In the beginning, we are not the ones who get to choose who cuts the cord.  When it comes to our false comforts we don’t have to do anything but trust God to take them and heal us from the aftermath.  We run around this big earth thinking we have to do more.  Thinking we are the ones who have to fix ourselves before we can go to God.  Those are lies.  God will take your Blankie.  All you have to do is believe.

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Dear Lord, Help me today to trust you with my Blankie.  I choose today to trust you with my Blankie.  I believe You can be trusted.  I believe You are my source of comfort and security.  Lord let me learn that the past is behind me and You are right in front of me, waiting to heal me.  I thank You Lord for removing those things in my life which are not of You.  I pray for all those who feel stuck in their sin or addictions that they made find true comfort in You alone and be healed from their wounds.  In Jesus Name.  Amen.

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Define Love

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What is love?  What is your definition? What’s love got to do with who you are? Is love overrated? If you don’t have love are you worthless? If you do not have love for another are you evil?  If love isn’t enough than what is?  If you are alone, do you not possess love?  If you are not in a relationship, have you failed at love? I could fill this entire blog with the word love and it would lose it’s meaning really fast so let’s get to the nitty gritty of what love truly is.

First this is what Webster’s dictionary defines love as:

Simple Definition of love

  • : a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person

  • : attraction that includes sexual desire : the strong affection felt by people who have a romantic relationship

  • : a person you love in a romantic way

hmmmm…for the purposes of today’s blog I want to focus on the very first line.  What does it mean to have a strong and constant affection for a person? Also for the motive of this discussion I want to change person to reflect yourself.  Jesus says clearly several times in the Bible that we are to love our neighbor as we love ourselves but how can we do this if there is no existence of love for ourselves?

So many humans are wandering around this Valentine’s Day moping because they don’t have a husband or wife or a significant other to share this day of love with.  We as humans get so caught up in the drama of what holidays are supposed to mean that we lose out value for ourselves. We need to get back to the basics of love, ourselves.

Now, I know when some of you just heard that you got a little sad because you don’t have a clue how to begin loving yourself.  You have been so beaten and battered to this point in your life that there is no hope left.  You have been rejected one too many times.  You have been left out of certain circles.  You don’t seem to fit in anywhere.  You feel as if you have failed at life time and time again.  Why would you even want to love yourself, no one else seems to.

This is where change can begin to happen. You are not defined by anyone else’s definition of love.  You are defined by who God says you are.  The Bible says so many positive things about who you are.  Your are His beloved.  You are His righteousness.  You are worthy. You are loved. I do not have the time or space to list all of the great things the Bible says about you, I just wanted to graze the surface.  So how can you begin to love you?  First of all the best step to take is begin to recognize the lies you have been fed probably all of your life.

Often growing up is where we begin to listen and accept the lies of the enemy: You are not good enough to do that.  You did that completely wrong.  You will never be able to do that.  You will be lucky to finish high school.  You won’t get that part in the play.  You are not smart enough.  Lie after lie after lie after lie we believe and it begins to shape how we value ourselves.  If we don’t begin to love who we are, we will never be able to love others to the full capacity that Jesus calls us to.

So here are a few beginning steps to catapult you into loving yourself.  One, stop listening to the lies. Two, begin to accept the positive love from God’s Word and let it begin to define who you are.  Three, forgive those who fed you the lies. Four, practice loving yourself.  It’s okay to spend time with you.  It’s okay to do the things you enjoy doing.  It’s okay to accept the uniqueness that makes you who you are.  And five, apply grace to yourself.

Loving yourself is not an instant, overnight success.  Loving yourself will take time, so take all the time you need.  Once you begin to see yourself with God’s perspective you will begin to see a change in you.  A change for the better.  A positive change that will infect those around you and may even inspire some to do the same.  Whatever you do, don’t give up on you because God never will.

Dear God,

I give you permission today to reveal Your love to me in a way I have never seen before.  I ask that you would begin a new work in me and that I would begin to understand what loving myself is all about.  I thank You for accepting me just as I am right where I am.  I thank You that the work You have begun in me You will complete.  Help me to see the love You have for me clearly and without the lies from the enemy.  In Jesus Name, Amen

Rear View Mirror Addictions

1 Corinthians 13:3-7

If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.
letting go
Ever just wish you could get rid of your past like the seeds of a dandelion?  Do you find yourself obsessed with looking back at the past constantly with regrets?  How do we come to this place where we find peace…constant peace?  How can there even be such a thing as peace when we have made so many wrong turns and decisions?  Sometimes we just shake our heads in disbelief that we could be so stupid about things yet we show no desire to make any changes for the good.  We are stuck in an addiction of looking in that rear view mirror and have no answers as to how to stop the staring.
How are we defined as a person?  Do new people meeting us judge us for our past?  NO, of course not, they don’t even know us, so why do we even bring the subject up?  When we come to the realization that Jesus is the answer to every single problem we encounter, we can begin to deal with our past and see it for what it is…the past.  The dictionary describes the past as :

PAST (adjective) 1.gone by or elapsed in time: It was a bad time, but it’s all past now.

 

Gone. Do you see it?  It is gone, finished..can’t go back and change a thing, so why are we staring at it like we could do something different?  I know for me, letting go of the past was not an easy thing to do, in fact it took me three years of Jesus time to get through my detox from the past.  I spent several days of my life blaming myself for all of the disaster that had occurred in my life time.  Bad choices.  Mistake judgments.  Wrong answers.  I felt like I was the reason my husband was the way he was.  I thought I caused him to turn to drugs and alcohol to ease his pains and agony with life.  I felt I was the reason I had no true love in my life.  All lies of the enemy.

 

So what is the solution?  Jesus.  Take your past and pretend it’s on the end of a dandelion stem and blow!  Blow all the lies away.  Scatter the past in a million directions and begin to live life to it’s fullest.  Choose to stop staring at the rear view mirror as if things are going to change.  Learn from the past but stop taking it with you. Choose today not to be addicted to your past.  Remember, it’s not going to change.  Choose today to follow after Jesus and be at peace knowing you have walked through fire and survived!

After the Rain

Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. Glory to him in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations forever and ever! Amen. Ephesians 3:20-21 NLT

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After the rain pours out on the earth, things come to life.  Dry flowers are quenched of their thirst.  The soil soaks up the refreshment poured upon it.  The birds come to play in the little puddles.  Children come to make mud pies and jump and play, splashing water everywhere.  Everything just comes to a place of hydration and peace.  Things begin to grow and roots become stronger.  Is it not the same with God?  Let me explain.

I have been attending revival meetings now since 2009.  The first one I attended was 54 days long and changed my life completely.  As I spent night after night in worship and spending time on the floor in prayer, God was able to change my thinking in several areas of my life.  As He poured into me, I grew.  I opened my heart like a flower seeking to be drenched by love.  I finally could see the call God had on my life.  I knew beyond the shadow of a doubt that I had a purpose to fulfill.  After several months of intense one on one time with Jesus, I was ready to move into the things God had prepared for me.

Now here I am in 2013 and we are on the verge of revival breaking out all over the city and what is happening to me?  I am feeling nervous and excited all at the same time.  I know the time is nearing that I will have to get out of my box and declare my purpose.  I will soon be sharing Jesus with everyone I meet no matter where I am.  As we begin to settle into our new building smack dab in the center of the city, I get a front row seat to see just what God can do with little nobodies like me.  Why am I so scared?

Well, after being drenched by the raining down of His love all this time, I have become comfortable with this God I have been seeking.  I have been soaking in all of the teachings and reading His Word. I am filled from head to toe with the knowledge of Jesus and now it is my time to pour it all out.  So why am I in fear? Because part of me feels like if I empty it all out, I will never be full again.  This my friends is what we call discouragement and disbelief in what God can do.  It is what the enemy does to hold us back.  The last thing Satan wants to do is watch us spreading the Good News to everyone we meet so he gives us this lie that once we pour out God, we won’t be able to get a refill.  Pure lies.

I know in my heart of hearts that whatever I pour out in the name of Jesus, God will give me a refill every time I come before Him at the altar.  Just like tonight in a normal service, He poured His love all over the place and we had but to be still and allow Him to rain His grace upon our lives.  Are you dry and in need of a downpour in your spiritual life?  Then it’s as easy as saying, “Lord, fill me up, I am in need.”

Guilty Without Charges

1 John 3:20

Even if we feel guilty, God is greater than our feelings, and He knows everything.
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Yup!  Guilty! I messed up for sure this time.  Never going to get forgiveness this time.  Just can’t seem to do anything right.  I might as well just quit while I am ahead.  No use trying to move forward, never going to make it.  Ever have any of these thoughts running through your head?  What about creating a war in your mind that does not even exist.  Or, what about having this fear well up inside of you and you begin to play out the worst actions over in your mind over something that is nothing.  Gotten yourself all ready for a punishment that is not even coming?  If so then you do the same thing I do, charge myself guilty when there is no crime.
Sometimes in life for a number of reasons, low self-esteem, childhood issues, self-doubt and many more dysfunctions, we find ourselves sentencing ourselves to our own personal jail.  We begin from the moment our mind tells us we might be in the wrong, and we run with the lies it begins to tell us until it eats away at us..  Little by little as you begin to accept the lies as truth, you have yourself so worked up you either want to run away or no longer live.  These little nuggets of untruth become the very boulders we attach ourselves to, leaving us helpless to see the truth so that we can find freedom.
Sometimes those untruths start when we are very young. You are not good enough.  You will never amount to anything.  No one else in the family went to college.  You will be lucky to find a job.  No one is going to hire you.  You are a failure at life, nothing good will ever happen to you.  Lie after lie whispered into our ears for years.  It’s no wonder we are afraid of God and everything He has to offer us.  How can He ever want us, we are not good enough to be in His presence.  Let me be real with you for a moment.  Satan lurks around looking to kill, steal and destroy God’s people and we have fallen into some deep traps of untruths.  We need to at some point realize we no longer want to be chained to our insecurities and untruths and find this desire to change our position.
For God, failure is not an option.  He sent His son to die on a cross to cover ALL of our sins…past, present and future.  Anyone who believes in Jesus will be saved and spend eternity in heaven.  It is by His grace that we are able to breathe.  It is by His grace that we have been given a second, third, fourth, fiftieth chance at life.  It is by His grace that we are saved from the enemies lies.  When will we learn to just surrender and listen for His still small voice to guide us?  When will we stop sentencing ourselves with our own condemnation?
I just want to speak grace to anyone who might be reading this.  I want to speak life into your being.  Stop listening to the lies.  Stop making the boulder bigger and the chains stronger.  Believe in God and He will take care of you.  His Word is truth from cover to cover and His grace is enough to cover any sin.  His grace is enough to free you from your chains.  His grace is enough to allow you to be loved.  May you right now in this moment be filled with peace as you surrender everything to Jesus and allow Him to move in your life.

Just Be You—It Makes Satan Mad

Jeremiah 1:5
“I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.”

Be this.  Do that.  Wear this.  Pick that.  Conform. Conform Conform.  Fit in.  Grow up.  Why can’t you be like your brother?  You are nothing like your dad.  Do this to look like a rockstar.  Have this surgery to make you feel better.  Demand after demand for us to change who we are.  Do we not believe in the Bible?  God knew us before we were even formed in the wombs of our mothers.  He designed us just as we are.  He loves us for who He created us to be, so why are we so determined to change what He set in motion?  Why do we have this drive to change who we are?

Well, my theory on this issue is simple, Satan.  Does it not make sense that he would want us to change so that we get off our path to our destiny? Satan will do everything in his power to change our course.  He will feed us lie after lie about who we are until we fall into trap after trap. We go on diets and dye our hair to make ourselves feel better.  We sometimes drink to fit into certain crowds even when its not really who we are.  Sometimes we start smoking to look cool and it ends up staying with us for years.  So many different aspects of life we fall into that really are not of God.

So my point in this all is easy, how do you keep Satan away from your life?  Just be you.  Just accept who you are in Christ and go with the flow of the river of life.  Color you hair if you choose, but do it because it makes you happy, not to appease someone else.  Laugh out loud in public even if Satan does not want you to be happy.  Fall head over heels in love with your mate, no matter what it looks like to the world around you.  There is no such thing as “too happy” when you are residing in Christ.  I urge you now to shake off the things of this world and begin to discover the real you.  The more you become yourself, the madder Satan will get, and that’s a good thing.

Be who you were designed to be by our Creator.  Choose right now to become the child of God you have always dreamed of being.  Be real.  Be free.  Today just choose to be who you are.  Start you day by making this statement out loud (filling in your name in the blank):  “Today I am choosing to be just ____________.”  The more days I choose to be just Brenda, the smoother things seem to go. Try it, see what God can do where you are seeking after His desires for your life.