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What? No Lasagna or Spaghetti????

Instructed by the king, they set off. Then the star appeared again, the same star they had seen in the eastern skies. It led them on until it hovered over the place of the child. They could hardly contain themselves: They were in the right place! They had arrived at the right time!
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It’s that time a year again when everyone is running around last minute trying to find the perfect gift for everyone they know.  Some are spending money they really don’t have to spend and others are wondering where they will even get the money in the first place.  Others are finding themselves in depressions because they don’t have anyone to even spend Christmas with.  How did this holiday season get so out of hand?  Don’t get me wrong, I love Christmas. I love the colors and lights.  I love the decorated trees and the presents under them.  But in reality is it just a cover up?
This may be a little raw for some to read and it may seem kinda on the sad side of things, but this is a blog about my real life, so here it goes.  For the several years in my first marriage we just scraped by ALOT.  Our children did not always have the newest of things or the latest contraption but I can assure you, Christmas was their time of year.  Feeling guilty for all of the things we could not get during the year, we over did it on Christmas.  We would spend our whole pay check plus any bonuses on Christmas..not leaving any finances for bills.
Did the kids have a great Christmas?  Sure did.  Did all of those “things” really mean anything in the the long run?  What my family needed was a year full of love not a one day show.  I look back at my dysfunctional past and I just want to scream!  I feel like we robbed our children of a true representation of a family.  I sometimes wish I could go back and change things and then I realize it all happened and nothing can change the past, we can only move forward.
So now, we don’t make a huge effort on Christmas to get gifts.  We have a set amount to spend and that’s it.  But one thing we do have still is each other.  We have good memories and bad and that holds us together.  It really caught me off guard this year when I forgot a very important tradition.  I called my daughter and suggested that we do Chinese for dinner this year and I heard her disappointment when she simply said, “What? No lasagna and spaghetti this year?”  How could I have completely forgotten a 19 year tradition?  I still remember when Alex (my son) was four years old and I had made lasagna and garlic bread for Christmas Eve with a beautiful candle lit dinner.  We were about half way done with dinner and he piped up and said, “Mom, can we do this every year?”
So every year since we have had lasagna and spaghetti ( the spaghetti started when Alex was about 12 and suddenly didn’t like lasagna) and I can’t believe I almost forgot this year.  But what does this say?  It says it really wasn’t about the overload of presents all along, it was about being with family and enjoying the little things which didn’t cost much.  It was about feeling loved, accepted and valued.
I pray each of you had a wonderful Christmas no matter how you celebrated.  I pray that all have seen Jesus this year in some way shape or form.  I pray 2015 will be a year of many blessings and grace!  
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Maneuvered by Love

2 Corinthians 3:18
So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord—who is the Spirit—makes us more and more like Him as we are changed into His glorious image.

Change is all around us.  Changes in the atmosphere.  Changes in attitudes.  Changes in appearances.  Change in jobs.  Change in friends.  Change of style.  Change of location. Change of mind.  Change of direction.  Change of seasons.  Change, change, change, change…..it’s enough to drive the normal person insane.  Perhaps we should look at it from a different angle, God’s view.  As there is a theme of change in the earth, so is there with our Heavenly Father.

God changes hearts, mindset, directions, attitudes, atmospheres and locations in our very lives.  He has the power to set change in motion, often without our even being aware of it happening.  Suddenly we find ourselves far from what we had originally set out for, yet we feel at peace because God decided the change for us.  God is determined that none shall perish and so daily He seeks to change the hearts of those who know Him not.  He often changes us and where we are headed to accomplish this.  Does that make any sense?

Maybe we were set out for a really nice dinner and we had a destination in mind only to arrive to find it closed, relocated or being renovated.  We instantly become disappointed and perhaps a little angry, but if we change our mindset, we will anticipate what God really has in store for us.  He may send us to several locations before we reach our final destination, yet when we are secure in Him and surrender our wills, a blessing will happen.

What if the next person who needed Jesus was at the new place you arrived at to eat?  You did not have any idea there was someone who needed some compassion, however, God did and He made a way for you to bring Light into that persons life.  How amazing is that?  I know, not many of us like change especially when we think we have it all together.  We get frustrated when things don’t quite go as planned, but this is where the changing of the mindset comes in.  Do all things as if we were honoring the King.  Think and react as a child of God on a mission to accomplish His true desire, saving the lost.

Embracing change is never easy.  We get comfortable where we are at and begin to become set in our ways, refusing to see things at times any differently.  Friends, I tell you this, we are not here for us.  We are here because God wants a relationship with each and everyone of us that He has created and His desire is to change us from the inside out so that we can lead others to Him.  What an honor it should be to serve the King. What a privileged to win souls for the Kingdom of Heaven.  We are empowered by a God who loves us so much He sent His own Son to a cross to die for us.

So surrendered I will remain.  Let God change my plans.  Let God move me.  Let God change EVERYTHING in me that does not represent Him.  I want to be a light for the lost.  I want to be maneuvered by the love of God Yes, I am embracing change.  Change is good. Change is wonderful.  Change is what I have been longing for all this time.