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Lost between Diamonds, Makeup and Hairspray


Today, if you were to check my Facebook page, I had a to do list all mapped out.  Well, somehow I got lost between posting that this morning bright and early and doting on myself.  I went from wanting to knock things off my list to spending some me time in a matter of minutes.  Will I get my list done today? Perhaps.

In life we get so caught up in pleasing those around us that we forget sometimes that we are just as important.  We need to take time for us before we are broken and battered and of no use to others.  I enjoy spending time with me.  I like to see what magic I can do with my hair and make up.  I like trying on clothes.  I like decorating myself with diamonds just for fun.  I guess what I am trying to say is simple:  I like me.

Now, I did not arrive to this position about myself overnight and the older I get the more I like myself and who I have become.  I have allowed God to change me from the inside.  The more I believe what His Word says about me, the more I am happy to focus on me so that I can encourage others to do the same!

My husband asked me this morning why I was so good to him.  Silly man, because I love you.  But I can honestly say that I am as confident in who I am today because of his love.  I was broken from a past relationship and it has taken time and a lot of healing for me to even say I like myself.  God used my husband to love me back together.  He picked up the broken pieces of my heart and gently and patiently helped me heal.  I wrote him this Facebook post today:

for john

God has used my husband to teach me the principle of loving myself.  When I do not feel good about who I am, then I am not very easily persuaded to help anyone else feel good either.  However, when I am confident in who I am, I can boldly help someone in need of a love tap.  I can lovingly tell someone who is down and out and beating themselves up that they are worthy of love and mean it.

So how do we begin the journey of falling in love with who we are so that we can be a blessing to others?  One step at a time.  One Bible verse at a time.  One minute for ourselves. One moment of encouragement can do a whole lot of good.  Sometimes I wish I could start my career over and just become a motivator, then I think about the people I may have impacted and perhaps I already have done that.

Last point:  the definition of love is an intense feeling of affection and the definition of yourself is you personally.  Put these two together and you get this:  Feeling intensely affectionate for you personally.  I know that sounds a bit strange but let’s look at it from God’s perspective:

God feels intensely affectionate for you personally because God is love.

Wow! How powerful is that statement?  Let that permeate through you right now.  Allow that to just sink right in.  When you realize the God of the universe is in love with who you are, it’s the first step to beginning to love you!

Dear God, I stand before you today with the knowledge that you love me personally.  Help me to receive that into my spirit.  Help me to see who I really am.  Let the love process begin in me today.  Show me something about who I am that I can love.  Thank You for accepting me just as I am, a work in progress.  I thank you for the revelation to come.  In Jesus Name Amen


Some Peoples’ Children!

Deuteronomy 11:5
“Your children didn’t see how the LORD cared for you in the wilderness until you arrived here.

Some peoples’ children are rude. Some peoples’ children are kind.  Some are disrespectful, while others surprise you with their manners.  Some peoples’ children are greedy and others are giving.  Some are stubborn and rebellious while others are rule followers and go with the flow.  Still other peoples’ children are mean and careless while others are friendly and caring.  Are you getting the picture?  All people are different and we all come from different walks of life.  As the above scripture verse states, no one knows what God has done in our lives, it is between Him and us.  Once I made this realization, I was astonished to discover…..I some peoples’ child!  Someone probably has muttered that statement about me when I did something they were not happy with.  I have been judged by others around me and sometimes it may not have been accurate.  How many times have I done that only to have God show me later the error of my ways? (Many)

Once again I am on a road where I must learn to be less judgmental of others. Why as Christians do we find this so hard to do?  It’s even in the Bible that we are not to judge others for that is reserved solely for God. Now of course I am not speaking about those who do wrong in society and have to go before the court system, I am merely speaking of us in general as Christians.  I know that once we accept Jesus into our hearts we become different and begin to feel as though we are aliens among the land.  We suddenly see things in a totally different light and we get easily frustrated when others just don’t seem to get it.  We get irritated when others swear or gossip.  Frustrated when others violate the rules of the road.  Angry when we see parents mistreating their children in public.  And the list is endless!  Yet in all of this we lose sight of the human, flesh characteristics we all have.  Remember my blog a few times ago?  God loves us all equally.  No one person is better than another.  He loves each individual the same.

I am really trying hard to be more like Jesus.  I am aspiring to be more like the gentle lamb than the angry, squawking screech owl.  I want to be slower to anger and more fair to everyone.  I want to take the word “judgmental” right out of my dictionary so that I can’t even use it.  If only I had a secret key to use.  If I could only unlock the part of my heart which  sees with Jesus’ eyes instead of mine.  What a dream, to love like He does. To show compassion the way He does.  To be kind and gentle and accepting of faults, like He is.  Now, I admit that I may be asking the impossible, yet I know I can work on getting better, not perfect.  Watching my words and treating others ALWAYS with respect.  Stop judging people by their actions and begin to get to know the reasons behind the reactions.  We can never begin to see what God has done in someone else’s life, therefore we cannot start to assuming how they will react in different situations.

Where do you stand?  Are you aspiring to change anything in your life?  I invite you to share your ideas and insights.  I feel our journey here on earth as Christians is to change our hearts daily to become closer to the Father.  We should be headed towards greatness and helping others do the same.  Once we learn the secrets of being like Jesus, we should share them with others so the world can slowly begin to change in preparation for the coming of Jesus.  It’s a daily renewing of the mind.  A moment by moment seeking of God in our lives.  It is also entails worrying more about our own actions and not the actions of others.  It does no good to continually point out the faults and failures of others when you can’t even see you have flaws of your own.

So it’s time for me to take some deep breaths.  Meditate on those things of God which will unlock the part of my heart to see like Jesus does.  It is in this coming of Spring that I will begin to widen my horizons and keep tabs on my own actions and reactions to those around me.  I will try to shut my mouth even before it opens and think for just a second about what is about to spill from it.  Is what I am about to say true? Is it uplifting or degrading?  Will it be judgmental or encouraging?  Only I can make the choice to choose to monitor myself and be accountable to the things I speak into life.  I alone must be seeking God for direction and wisdom.  I myself must desire to be more like Jesus before things can change in my life.  It will take time, energy and silence!  I want to be know as Somebody’s’ Child, God’s!

Always remember:  Some peoples’ children are famous.  Some peoples’ children are in pain.  Some peoples’ children are dying. Some peoples’ children are lost.  Some peoples’ children have no hope.  But all peoples’ children are Children of God.

Who Is Jesus to You?

Luke 15:20

20 So he got up and went to his father.

   “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.

Did you know that God accepts you for who you are?  No matter what you have done, no matter where you have been, He will always take you back.  Just like the prodigal son, He welcomes us back with arms open wide and hugs us, showering us with love like we have never known.  Do you also know that God is no respecter of persons which means, we are equal to Him as humans? Yep, the pastor is loved just as much as the beggar.  He loves the choir director as much as the drug addict.  He gives as much attention to the garbage collector as the president.  We all have a purpose to serve and God created us all to run towards our destinies.  He is always there to guide and to correct even when we seem to be unaware of His presence.  What is Jesus to you?  Is He just a religious figure in your life?  He is just something to believe in so that we shall not perish in Hell?  What is He really to you at this moment in your life?

I know; tough questions to answer for some of us.  I have different answers for every stage of my life.  There once was a time when He was just someone I prayed to.  He was someone I ran to when I was in trouble but never for the good things in my life.  There have been times in my life when I have just taken Him for granted, not realizing the big role He should have been playing in my everyday life.  I never thought I was important to God.  I always thought He only loved me a little and I was not worthy of receiving any blessings in this life because I had partied and smoked for so many years.  I am ever so thankful my veil has been removed and I can clearly see now just how much God loves me for who I am.  I now have this desire to become more like Jesus so that I to can begin to accept people for who they are and to begin to have some reasoning to why they behave the way they do.

As Christians’ should we not be following after Jesus and how He treated people?  I know it is very difficult to find acceptance for all the people in our lives.  All of us have co-workers and family members who just drive us nuts.  I am in a working environment where I have to deal with people from all walks of life and sometimes it is very hard to not get agitated by their behaviors at times.  I have one in particular whom I just love to hate.  We never see eye to eye and part of it is her recent disbelief in the things of God.  I know she has walked a very hard road in her life and it has truly just sucked the life out of her.  It pains me to see this once happy, carefree person burdened with pain and distaste for life which is very evident.  I just want her to return to the place in her life where she once was, in love with Jesus, and nothing else mattered because she knew He was there for her.  She stopped going to church because of what some others were speaking about her and her family and it has just been downhill from there.  I know I cannot force her into a renewed relationship with Jesus, I can just pray.

So who in your life needs you to be more accepting of who they are and where they have come from?  If God accepts us for who we are and where we are standing, then why are we not more accepting of others?  I realize at this moment some of you have this pit in your stomach because God is speaking directly to you.  I know each time when I have been too harsh to someone or too judgmental.  Don’t get me wrong, it is in our nature, however, when we take on the nature of Christ, we need to begin to change our lifestyles to reflect Him.  We can no longer just take Jesus as our Savior and go about our daily routines thinking we have nothing to change about ourselves.  Becoming Christ like also is not something we can accomplish over night, it is a slow process of deciding on a moment by moment basis what our reactions are going to be to people in our lives.  God calls us to a higher purpose and part of this is learning to accept people for who they are.  Who knows where the drug addict started out from or why they act the way they do, perhaps they are trying to fill a void in their lives and because they have been shut down by one too many humans, drugs are the only answer.  How about the pastor?  Sure we see how God works in their lives every Sunday as they stand in the pulpit and tries to convey how God is speaking to them to congregation of people who come from all walks of life.  Who are we to criticize His sermon if He is just listening to God and following His will?  God does not command us to judge, but to love.

I pray I have not offended anyone with this blog, however I hope I have stirred some thoughts around in your hearts.  I struggle everyday with this in every aspect of my life, while at work or driving my car or at the grocery store or at the mall.  People are everywhere and most of them are hurting and just wanting to be accepted and loved.  They just need someone to listen to them and accept them even if they are misbehaving or not walking like we think they should be.  Once again we are not called to judge people or to pretend we know how they should be living.  I think perhaps this is why God has called me to be a leader of the youth.  The teens are the most over-judged people I know.  Society seems to be in denial of their own teenage years and it frustrates me when people prejudge the tattoos and piercings and the dress code they display.  Yes, I agree some of these things are strange and not what I would choose for myself, yet I do not let the outward appearance how I feel for these teens.

I challenge all of us to practice accepting people for who they are.  I almost bet if you take 5 minutes to talk to the most annoying person at work tomorrow, you will begin to have compassion for them as you discover they are just human.  Will you do that?  Are you willing to spend just 5 minutes getting to know someone in your life that perhaps you have judged?  I am trying to remember God every moment of my day and He shows me things about people sometimes that just knock my socks off.  I pray He will do the same for you.  I never saw myself has a compassionate person before but the more I try to be a better Christlike person, the more I can see what God sees in others.  If we have struggles then so do they.  Nobody has had a perfect live, but everyone deserves to receive love.