The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
longing for connection
my heart lays in pieces…..waiting.
As the days just continue to fade away, I have time to reflect on where I am. My sole reason for writing is to touch hearts and reach those who are brokenhearted. I long to help pick up the pieces and rebuild relationships simply by sharing what I have seen. I am married to an addict, first alcohol and then drugs. I was addicted to him as much as he was addicted to me. Somehow in the strangest of ways, we needed to be with each other. I needed him for acceptance and he needed someone to love him for who he was. Kids complicated things as the marriage worsened, I wanted out, yet I just saw no alternative through the winding mess of brokenness I had found myself in.
I would look in the mirror often and just wonder what I was doing here. My heart was completely broken after 18 years of marriage. My kids we 15 and 17 when my husband planned to commit suicide on my daughters 15th birthday with a 410 shot gun while high on methadone and even at the hospital as lies were being told about the situation, I was scared to say anything. I feared a man who was clearly not in his right mind. I was scared of what he would do if he found out I was the one who told the doctors finally about his addictions. Looking back the only explanation as to why I could spill the story to the nurse, was God. He took one look at me suffering in a situation I had placed myself in and found mercy; giving me the confidence in that one small moment of time to speak what I needed to say. In that one small moment God was able to finally remove me from my situation so healing could begin.
In my weakness, God gave me courage. In my crisis, He showed me they way out of the wilderness. He heard my crying out to Him. He was already finding all the pieces to my shattered heart so that He could begin the healing process, I just had to recognize I was broken. This whole time I thought it had it under control. My kids were okay. I was still working. I went to church. I just assumed God just let this relationship continue because He was serving a purpose for my life. As I have started to get my thoughts in order, I have found writing this book about my situation has caused me to see I was not okay. The kids were NOT okay. Certainly I did not have things under control. Yet God is using this now for good.
In the coming days, I will step into the reality of God. He is real for every situation. God is in every moment of the day. He is our provider, our protector and our guide. His love covers a multitude of wrong decisions and choices. As we are beating ourselves up He is trying to find a way to encourage us. Maybe for some it’s reading something that just hits home finally or He sends someone into your life for a season or a moment just to show you He is there….waiting. Waiting for you to give it all to Him finally so He may begin picking up the pieces of your heart and put them back together for His glory. He longs for you to be happy in all aspects of your life, this cannot happen if you think you are the one in control.
staring at the pieces
wondering if it still remembers
how to beat.