“But things have changed. I’m taking the side of my core of surviving people: Sowing and harvesting will resume, Vines will grow grapes, Gardens will flourish, Dew and rain will make everything green.
So what do you do when you are at the end of a rope? What is there to do when all of your hope is lost? What do you say when all of the words have voided the premises? How many times to you run into the same brick building without it even budging? This is how I felt sometimes in my new marriage, not because of the union of two hearts, but because there was conflict with blending families.
If you have not noticed yet, there is an age gap between John and I..like 19 years. I had two grown children when I entered into this second marriage and this made for some rocky waters to walk on. I cannot pretend to have any clue the thoughts or feelings either of my children had, but I know they had doubts and questions. Everything happened in such a rush that I did not take the time to look at all of the pieces of the puzzle before I tried to but them together. Not knowing the whole picture to begin with also made it more difficult.
As I watched my son hug my husband on our wedding day and welcome him to the family, I was filled with joy, yet concerned for my daughter. It took lots of prayer and surrender but now my daughter and husband get along quite well. He is learning his boundaries as a step-dad and my children are receiving of the love he has to offer. We all know that he will never take the place of a dad in their lives, but we hope strong relationships of trust will continue to grow.
Giving up is not really just shoving things aside and forgetting about it ever changing. Giving up is about surrender. When there is nothing left that you can do…give it up. If you come to a crossroads and neither option really looks appealing…give it up. If you find your self in a hopeless situation that you cannot control…give it up. If you begin to grasp the understanding that all of our lives are in God’s hands then giving up is easy to do because we trust in His plan for our lives. We need to learn how to stop giving it our all and self-destructing in the process and give it to Him so that we can be all that we were designed to be as His children.