1 Peter 3:13-15
13 Now, who will want to harm you if you are eager to do good? 14 But even if you suffer for doing what is right, God will reward you for it. So don’t worry or be afraid of their threats. 15 Instead, you must worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your Christian hope, always be ready to explain it.
Ever feel like you just don’t make a difference anywhere you go? Perhaps you are failing at work or school. Maybe you just lost some friends who you thought really mattered in your life. Or your life that you had planned out just is not panning out like you thought it would. You just feel like your dreams are empty and all this “work” you put into your life was for nothing. You just want to sit in a corner and pretend like you don’t matter, when in reality you are making a difference in someone’s life and you don’t even know it.
A few blogs ago I expressed how I felt about losing my facebook friends, well at the same time I was failing at work, dealing with things in my new marriage as we begin to set the foundation and trying to pre-sell enough copies of my book which was not going well. I had a lot going on and I felt as though all those things were going in the wrong direction. I felt like I was not making a difference no matter what I did.
When I started writing I said this one phrase which I will always stand by….If I can help one person find Jesus then I have accomplished what I set out to do. Well, as I was having my pity party just a few days ago, I received a facebook message from someone I had not heard from in over a year. She shared with me how what I spoke to her a year ago helped her to find Jesus and to set her life on the right path. Isn’t that just like God to show up and show me that I am exactly where I need to be in His will.
I have since come to terms with even if I don’t see the results right in front of me that maybe I am making a difference for God. By stepping out and sharing who I am in Christ people see there is hope, even if I can’t see it happening. Today at church we learned about honor and to give honor where honor is due. To simplify how this applies here, I was honored that by honoring God I was able to make a difference just by sharing Jesus. It’s never about me, it’s always about what God is doing in my life and through me.
So for me this pity party is over and want to sit a table for many more that one. I want to just keep following after Jesus and introducing Him to the people around me. I just want others to see that there is hope. There is a reason for living. There is a purpose for this existence.
Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory.
Sharing is a losing situation is what I was taught today in a class about conflicts. Upon first hearing the concept, I reviewed the possibility of this having some truth. The instructor used the example of being siblings and being instructed by your parents regarding a new toy you had received that you needed to share it with your sibling. So the mindset here is simple, you have something new and you want it to yourself first for a period of time. Perhaps you will be willing to share it after a certain amount of time, but to just start of sharing it seems a bit much. So when this person tries to do like mom and dad said to do they have to give up something and they are losing out on the full potential of having that toy all to themselves. Further more emotions take over and now they are angry at the person they have to share with and this may cause an issue between them.
While we were discussing different outcomes of conflict today in class and as the teacher was describing sharing as a lose/lose situation, I began to accept her take on this. Growing up as an only child, sharing was not in my vocabulary. Things were mine, all mine and the thought never crossed my mind that someone else might possibly touch my things. Even when I had friends over, I was in charge and decided who could play with what. (yep I have been boss material since the age of 5)
When we are brought up in the environment of always having to share because it’s the right thing to do and our parents are just repeatedly telling us over and over again that we MUST share, we begin to accept it as part of life and for some this may be the beginning stages of jealousy or grudge holding. Sharing was described as a lose/lose situation because both persons involved lose something. The person who originally was given the toy has to give up their rights to it causing them to have negative feelings for the other person. Meanwhile the person who is being shared with can see clearly by the body language of the other they are not and may begin to feel the offense causing friction to arise.
Being “forced” into sharing could very well lead to a lose/lose situation in most cases and really seems to be a worldly way of doing things. Perhaps instead of teaching our children that they HAVE to share, what if we instilled values in them that makes them WANT to share instead? As I pondered this I looked up “sharing” in the Bible and found a few verses. One said if you eat quickly and do not share, some will go hungry (1 Corinthians 11:21), Philippians 3:10 states that we share in the death of Jesus and yet other verses talk about sharing God’s glory. This is the kind of sharing we need to teach. Non-self-centered, wanting to share moments.
What is the first thing we want to do after accepting Jesus into our hearts? We want to share the Good News to everyone we see. This is the attitude we need to grab hold of and teach to our children. We need to make it more of a kindness thing to share than a necessity in manners. We need to instill a value of making others happy into our children rather than teaching them that giving something up to others out of discipline or correction. I am not sure how this can be accomplished but it sure gives us something to think about. Just thought I would “share” this with you so that you may be inspired to change your concept of sharing in your own lives. Share your ideas on this one!